What makes a good date?

 What makes a good date?  Well let's see, are we talking about the people going on the date, or the activity for the date? I’ll start with the people on the date. 

To be a good date, what does that mean? Well, for many people it can mean that you talk to the other person, you are nice, and you try to have fun with the activity. On a date, each person should only pay attention to their date, not any other people. It seems to me though that many people are more interested in scrolling on their phone than talking to other people. It’s easier to scroll than to ask people out on a date.

This can lead to more hanging out than dates. It’s easier for people to just hang out and scroll on their phones or watch a movie rather than talking to others. Hanging out does not get what you need to know, like a date will.

 Hanging out is a group of people that just chill in someone's apartment. They don’t really do anything, and everyone bounces around to other people, not really focused on one person, or they just don’t talk to anyone. This is not a date, this is just people mingling. A date is defined by being planned for, paid for, and paired off. 

Planning a date seems hard, if it’s done wrong. Start with the activity, it doesn’t even need to be extravagant, hopefully it’s something that your date likes to do. An activity can be as simple as a hike or going fishing. Being paid for does not mean that a date has to be expensive. This simply means that you need a plan for if you do need to pay for things. This can include, asking your date to bring money just in case or paying for your date. Paying for your date is another example of being paired off. Paired off means that you and your date mostly focus on each other. 

 A good date should be fun. As you get to know someone, it should be, at least in some ways, through fun experiences. You should be able to learn more about people through many different activities. Challenging activities like hiking, can show you how your date deals with strenuous things. If you do a service activity, it can show you how willing your date is to help others or how caring they are about others wellbeing. 

Doing many activities is good, still, you should go on dates with different people. Going on dates with a wide variety of people will help you learn what personalities fit best with yours. We shouldn’t get attached to people prematurely. If we don’t know them well enough to see if they are suitable for marriage and we get attached, it doesn’t always work out.  

When we go on dates, we are looking for someone to marry, not just to have flings all through our life. Many people don’t share these beliefs, around the world. Many people only have boyfriends/girlfriends and they don’t move past this step. This isn’t what we need in this life and the next.

We need marriage, our Heavenly Father has told us that. We won’t be able to get into the celestial kingdom without being married and sealed in the temple. The only thing that we can take with us when we die are our memories, and the relationships we have in our life. This is from friends, family, and our marriage. If we don’t get married, we miss out on the vital things we will need later.

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